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8-1自怨自艾者和知足常乐者的区别在于知足常乐者明白：事情未必尽如人意，但我们可以努力让事情朝好的方向发展。都会好起来的。可能过一段时间才能看到事情好转，忘记羞辱，痛苦或者失望,但总会过去的,这些感觉都只是暂时的。这些都是生活的一部分，允许自己为人，去体验这些情绪，允许自己经历失败。 The benefit finder understands that everything will be OK in the end. If it's not OK, it's not yet the end. It may take a while，and I will get over the pain. That too shall pass. Understand that it is part of life. Permission to be human, which includes permission to experience these emotions and also the permission to fail. 成为一名知足常乐者有很多好处。长远看来，知足常乐者更幸福，体验更多的积极情绪,不容易产生焦虑，身体和心理都非常健康。比如，经历过加利福尼亚大火后，很多人失去了家园。知足常乐者并不是说：“火灾发生了，我很开心。”而是说：“这里也有积极的方面，现在我可以重新开始，我会更珍惜。”他们聚焦于积极的方面。知足常乐的人的存活率更高。 There are many benefits to be a benefit finder.Benefit finders were happier in the long
term, they were able to experience more positive moods, and less likely to be anxious. For example, people who lost their homes in a fire in California.The benefit finders didn't say:“I'm so glad it happened，\they said： \are some positive here- It's a fresh start; and now I'll appreciate my home more.” They focused on the positive.
人的积极性是可以培养的。我们让那些有痛苦经历的人把痛苦的经历写下来，并且写下他们从中可以感知到的积极面。那些从创伤中看到积极方面的人，身体和精神层面都更加健康，更加开心。问题总是有的，关键是看我们怎么做，怎么去看待它。
People are not born benefit finders or fault finders，we can learn how to be a benefit finder. When we let people who had bad experience write about their bad experience and their \benefits of the trauma创伤. Those who wrote about the \benefit\of the trauma were physically
healthier
and
psychologically
healthier,happier.Stuff happens,the question is what we do with it, how we interpret after.
8-1The benefit finder understands that
everything will be OK in the end. If it's not OK, it's not yet the end. Permission to be human, which includes permission to experience these emotions and also the permission to fail. There are many benefits to be a benefit finder.Benefit finders were happier in the long term. They focused on the positive. For example, people who lost their homes in a fire in California.The benefit finders didn't say:“I'm so glad it happened，\they said： \are some positive here- It's a fresh start; and now I'll appreciate my home more.”
People are not born benefit finders or fault finders，we can learn how to be a benefit finder. When we let people who had bad experience write about their bad experience and their \benefits of the trauma. Those who wrote about the \benefit\of the trauma were physically healthier
and
psychologically
healthier,happier.Stuff happens,the question is what we do with it, how we interpret after.